Thursday, June 11, 2009
THAT DREADED "D" WORD
(MY CONTRIBUTION TO THE SISTERHOOD OF THE PURPLE BICYCLE)
Last night my husband brought up that dreaded "D" word. No, not D-I-V-O-R-C-E, but that other word. We were sitting on the couch watching our favorite soap, when he let it slip past his lips, "Maybe you should think about getting your hair DYED." Not one for knowing when it's best to shut up, he continued on with, "How about black, That's your hair color isn't it?" BLACK! My hair has never been black! Am I getting so grey that he can't even remember that my natural color is dark brown? (at least he didn't suggest blond or I would have clipped him over the head with the TV remote) Is he worried that it might reflect badly on him to be seen with an older woman?
I have been going aux natural for several years now but I am reaching the point where my streaks can no longer be considered what we joking refer to as "highlights" or the "tinsel effect". At 52 I am looking at being completely grey, or in my case, "silver", within the next five years. Much too young. My mom died at age 47 with not a grey hair on her head, so I must have inherited the "silver" gene from my grandmother, although she waited until she was much older before sporting her silver locks.
Should I cave to the pressure and join the masses flocking to the beauty parlor for a chemical enhancement only to return every month or two for a touch up...hummm...not my "Forte!" As someone who is trying to find more natural ways of cleaning my hair-check the no poo movement- a chemical bath on my head...not very appealing. Do I really want a Susan Boyle makeover or do I want to remain true to my authentic self?
As for my husband, did he not agree...for better or for worse... and things can get a lot worse. I could toss the makeup and start wearing my silver locks in a granny bun or better still, I can be "Boyled" and high maintenance means $$$$$$$. He might just come to regret he ever let that "D" word escape his lips.
What would you do?