JUST SAY NO
Jamie’s question this week , “How would you like to stretch ,” was a difficult one for me causing considerable “mulling it over” in my mind. I kept trying to come up with something that would bridge the physical, emotional and spiritual side of me that would sound deep and introspective
in a post but, crap, I wasn’t really feeling the need to do any inner self searching this morning.. I scraped that idea in search for something else and the answer came to me the moment my daycare kiddies started arriving this morning. It was as clear to me as the wrinkles on my face. After 19 years of seeing children transform from perfectly wonderful little beings into demanding, wining little brats the moment “the parent” enters the scene, I have come up with what I would like to post in response to;
“How would you like to stretch?”
My stretch is this…and I’m going way out on a limb here with a radical concept …one that a lot of Mommies and Daddies are not going to like, but…please, just learn how to say no to your kids. Start when they are young . Set limits on what is tolerable behavior and have consequences for inappropriate behavior and be consistent with it so they will learn that “no” really means no, and not “no, only until I pitch a good fit.” Practice saying it but say it with conviction and without feeling guilt because you didn’t fulfill their every whim. It will get easier.
Will saying no scar them for life…no.
Will they like it…not a bit, but they will get over it.
Will they learn that pitching a fit will not get them what they want…yes. The quicker they learn this the sooner they will stop having tantrums and be happier for it and you can get on with spending some real quality “peaceful” time together.
Don’t be foolish enough to believe the term “terrible twos” applies to just two year olds and that they will magically outgrow throwing fits when they turn three. Tantrums generally start around 15 months and can last for many years unless they learn that "pitching a good one" is not going to gain them anything.
There, now I have that off my chest I can get on with some real “inner thinking.”